Too much of a good thing is still too much, yo.

I've had writer's block these past coupla days.  That's why the emails have come later than usual.  
Motivation is there but no inspiration.  

I think I've gone a little overboard this weekend with listening to podcasts and Youtube videos (I've become a fangirl of Simon Sinek).  Too much information with too little time to process and have quiet.

Even if the info is educational and broadens my knowledge base.  

My theory is that I'll have to limit my consumption.  So I'll dial back on the noise this week and see if I can get back into my daily routine.

What's this gotta do with you?

Methinks that if you're on the go, go, go mode and you see other areas of your life suffering as a result, it's time to take a step back and work in some quiet time.

The constant action may be for the greater good.  

In my case, it was research for my online fertility group coaching program.  I don't want to leave any stone unturned in helping my peeps get pregnant.

Sound familiar?

But some things take time.  Patience.  It can be difficult to remember that in a culture of instant gratification.  

If you're in constant motion to rush the process of improving your fertility, your egg quality, his sperm quality - whatever the case may be, sloooowwww down.  

Mother Nature is not to be rushed.  She will take her own damned time although consistent, daily nudging is always encouraged. :)

Is this email a good reminder for someone you know having fertility issues?  Please forward this and have her sign up for my daily emails at zenfertility.com/top10.

Julie Chang,
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

The Real Deal:

  • Natural Fertility Coach
  • Licensed Fertility Acupuncturist for 18 years
  • Doctorate in Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine - 2018
  • Master in Traditional Oriental Medicine, Magna Cum Laude
  • B.S. Microbiology & Molecular Genetics, UCLA
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The story behind my mom's birthdate. You don't wanna miss this...

My mom's legal birthday was yesterday.

Let me clarify...

It's the date listed on her birth certificate.  The day her father (my grandfather) registered her at the closest government office.

Her actual date of birth is June 10.

But at that time in rural Taiwan, babies didn't get documented until weeks or months after they were born.

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My 8yo's first job offer!

My 8yo was offered a dog walking gig a few days.  $15 for a 30 minute walk.  She was excited!  I, on the other hand, was skeptical.  That sounded too generous.

Sure enough, the owner changed her offer to $20 a week for 20-30 minutes, 5 days a week. Coming out to $4/walk.  

I have to break the news to my daughter about the new offer and she is going to be very disappointed.  To go from $15 to $4 is a huge bump down.

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How to get off the hamster spinning wheel

I spent 4 hours earlier this week playing a board game called CashFlow with my 8yo.  It was created by Rich Dad, Poor Dad author Robert Kiyosaki.

The objective is to create enough passive income to take you out of the "rat race" of living off a salary.  So you're not dependent on 1 source of income, your J-O-B, where you are essentially exchanging time for money.

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Idiot's guide to chaos planning

Speaking of chaos (as mentioned in yesterday's email)...

When it crops up, small or big, doesn't matter - it causes stress.  

Why?

Cuz we didn't plan for it.

The irony of chaos is that it's predictable in its complete disorder and confusion.  In that, we know it's going to happen.  Every day, every week, every month. 

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Happily ever afters, advanced math, and fertility

My daughter wants to rewatch "Frozen".  

Ugh.  Spare me.  "Let it go..." ;)

Thankfully, my girls don't care much for Disney movies so I'm not often subjected to them. 

Maybe it's the cynic in me but I don't want my girls indoctrinated into thinking they need a prince for their happily ever after (HEA).   These "girl meet boy" movies always end when they get together.  

In real life, the work comes later when the shine of the honeymoon period wears off and reality sets in.

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Would you pay this crazy amount for a painting?

I'm definitely missing something when I'm not willing to pay $84 MILLION dollars but others are.  Cuz that's how much it raked in at auction.

So being an art ignoramus, that amount is incomprehensible to me.  I sure know of other ways to spend $84M and it doesn't involve hanging a piece of canvas on my wall.

But just as I can't understand that valuation because I don't know the complexities of the art world, so it is in the fertility world...

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When you're at a loss for words

With 3 kids between 8-13yo under my supervision this weekend in SF, I was in constant electronics police mode.

It's unreal to me how addicted kids are to their phones.  Every second they can possibly eke out, their thumbs are twitching away.  They are constantly plugged in.  

A woman in the airport laughed when my reply to my daughter's "I'm bored without my iPad mini." was "You're bored because you're boring.  Use your mind and play with your friends."

It isn't just with kids.

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Back in SF again...

I'm back in SF for the weekend to pick up my daughter and her 2 friends from camp.  We'll fly down to SD later today.

Happy we're flying and not driving.

Although that's a good AND bad thing.

Because the original plan was to drive with my friend to pick up our kids.  But she bailed and placed that responsibility solely onto me. 

I was not pleased.

Although I'm glad that I don't have the 9 hour drive back and forth, I also incurred more expenses than I planned on with last minute flights, car rental, etc.

But there's no hard feelings.  

I've seen the limits of our friendship.  And won't  be expanding it beyond what it is now.  It'll stay strictly about the kids and their play dates. And in San Diego.

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My biggest challenge when dating

One of the biggest challenges when dating is to focus on the new guy in front of me.  To be fully present with him.

Not to judge him against the yardstick of past men.  Or worse yet, to punish him for their wrongs.  

On the flip side, not to hold him up to the dream of Disney's happily-ever-after future.

Because in doing so, I might prematurely stop the connection dead in its tracks.  It's over before it ever had a chance to start.

And so it is with you.

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Mike Tyson's lesson for you as you're TTC

Mike Tyson: "Most guys are pretty much intimidated.  They lost the fight before they even got hit."

During the initial consult, I can often tell when a new patient will stick around for the long haul or drop out of treatment early.  

Their attitude tells me whether or not they're just going through the motions of turning each untouched stone.

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NOT chillin' like a villain

Pulling into my garage at 1AM Sunday, I came home to a broken refrigerator.

Kinda like my broken back after a 9 hour drive from the Bay Area to San Diego

It must have been on the fritz all weekend because it was warm in the fridge.  

So at the glorious hour of 1AM, I had to clean up the melted puddles and throw away the smelly food.  

Now I'm going through the hassle of replacing the old fridge with a new one.  And we know how fun it is to wait for delivery people.

Cleaning out the fridge and replacing it is a good metaphor for life.

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Popcorn and fertility - its not what you think it is

I have a confession.  

I sneak food into the movie theatres.  I brought my own drink when I went to see the movie "Girls Trip" last weekend.  Karma dictated that the drink would spill in my purse so that's deserved.

"Girls Trip" was hilarious.  The female version of "The Hangover".  Fun for women and men so it would make a great date movie or one for just the laydeez.

Anyhoo...

In my defense, it's cuz the food selection is so crappy, it's not worth the calories. 

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My Chinese feast

Back from my weekend trip to the Bay Area, I return to San Diego more rotund.

It was all about the food.  Eating is a huge part of the Chinese culture.  So I'm more than happy to partake.  :)  

My family and I dine out often cuz there are new places popping up all the time.

You know the restaurant is legit when the patrons are 100% Chinese.  Nary a drop of European blood in sight (other than my half-blood demon spawn)...

Here's a tip:  you wanna know how good a Chinese restaurant is? Count how many non-Chinese are in the restaurant.  The number of non-Chinese is inversely proportional to how good the food is.  Meaning the less Caucasians, the better the food.  Sounds racist but that's the straight up truth.  That's cuz the chefs don't have to alter the original recipes to cater to Western tastes.  You're welcome.

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Natural pregnancy at 42yo

"After 3 failed IUI's and 3 IVF procedures, my husband and I were devastated! I started looking into acupuncture because something inside of me believed that we could conceive naturally. After meeting Julie for the first time, she recommended weekly treatments and a dramatic change in our diet. After 8 months of focus, on getting healthy, we were able to conceive naturally at 42 yr. old. We are now 5 months pregnant with our baby girl! I would recommend Julie to anyone!"

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Dogsitter needed!

The day that my youngest daughter leaves home for college will likely be my last, or close to last, day in San Diego.

That will mark the next phase of my life.  Of lots of traveling.  Throughout Asia, Europe, South and Central America.  Wherever my mood takes me.

Of course, so much can happen in the next 9 years.  So, who knows what the future holds for me?

In the meantime, I indulge my wanderlust with little trips here and there.  Like San Francisco this weekend and next.  

No grand adventure like last year when I walked my pilgrimage through northern Spain.

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Driving 8 hours is sooo much fun. NOT!

I'm trying really hard not to be so accommodating and nice all the time.  

It's a curse that got worse with motherhood.

Setting boundaries has always been a challenge.  

But this weekend I'm driving down from the Bay Area to San Diego which will probably take about 8 hours.  

Then I'm doing it again next weekend.  That's a 16 hour drive (at minimum) in 3 days.

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Being on the sidelines gets you nowhere

When I was in college or grad school, I always sat in the back.  No matter how big (sometimes hundreds of students) or small the class was.  

So if I nodded off or snuck out early, the lecturer would be none the wiser.

Now, when I'm at a seminar, I sit at the front.  Not the front row cuz I might get spit on.  But usually the 2nd or 3rd row.  
In yoga class, I'm literally front and center.  So I can see myself in the mirror and make corrections.  It also forces me to raise my game cuz I know, at some point, everyone is watching.

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Do NOT hire me for this job!

It's time to call my cleaning lady.  Once a month she does her magic at my place.  

I love it cuz I abhor cleaning and she gets paid.  Win-win.  No brainer.

I would be Pig-Pen from Peanuts in a perpetual cloud of dust if I didn't have her.  I look at a dustball and just step over it, instead of picking it up.  That's how bad I am.  So don't hire me to clean your house!

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