This time of year drives me quite batty with the constant litany of Christmas songs (enough Mariah!) and driving in circles looking for a parking spot somewhere in this hemisphere.
It's a stressful time for many people what with presents, holiday parties, travel, etc.
In a way, it's good that fertility clinics close for the holidays. That means IVFs and IUIs can wait until the new year.
It's nice to have an enforced break from thinking about fertility, no?
Wait for the New Year when you're recharged and ready to go.
What it comes down to is that you've created an environment where you already know that the holiday season won't result in you getting pregnant. Your priority is elsewhere. No fertility treatments. Get a little lax with your eating habits. No pressure.
2018 rolls around. You're back on your fertility journey.
Just as you create an environment (although not consciously) where your chances of getting pregnant are reduced, on the flip side, you can also intentionally create an environment where your chances of getting pregnant are increased.
So what's the environment you'll create where getting pregnant is almost inevitable?
Here's one way to put some of the pieces together...
The holidays is a wonderful time to evaluate what makes you happy.
Who are the people that you enjoy spending time? Make a note to spend more time in 2018 with them.
Who is an energy vampire? Minimize your exposure to them.
What activity did you love doing? Schedule time to do it on a regular basis in 2018. Maybe weekly or monthly.
We are a product of our environment. Pay attention in the next few weeks to tailor yours so that you can improve your chances of getting pregnant in 2018.
I teach some of the most critical components to optimizing fertility in my online GPS (Get Pregnant & Stay pregnant) Fertility Program. So if you're interested, hop on over here: zenfertility.com/gps
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- Licensed Fertility Acupuncturist for 18 years
- Master in Traditional Oriental Medicine, Magna Cum Laude
- B.S. Microbiology & Molecular Genetics, UCLA
One of my more fun recent first dates courtesy of Tinder was when I played darts with the guy. Read More
Yes, really - it was fun.
Let me explain...
The first time I meet someone from an online dating service is usually more of what I call a "meet and greet".
Typically, coffee or something really low-key and low commitment. Easy in. Easy out.
I had a "Mom of the Year" moment last night when my 12yo said that I made healthy food taste good. Yay!! Read More
It was a super simple dinner of baked sweet potatoes, leftover broccoli puree, and sausage.
When eating healthier to promote fertility, there's no need to overcomplicate it.
People panic over cooking.
I'm surrounded by married women. My entire career is focused on helping women get pregnant so obviously most of you are in a long-term relationship. Read More
The challenge for me as a single woman wanting to be in a meaningful relationship is to live my life fully and authentically.
And not to measure it against what I see which is lots and lots of women in loving partnerships.
Over the Thanksgiving weekend, a Florida liquor store employee found an opossum next to a broken and empty bottle of bourbon. Read More
One can only assume that it helped itself to the bourbon since it appeared disoriented, was excessively salivating and was pale.
Don't worry though. It was released unharmed after sobering up in a wildlife rescue center.
Opossums are marsupials like kangaroos and koalas.
My daughter had a ziploc bag with a seed and water taped to her window. It's been there for months. I finally threw it away last night cuz nothing was happening. Read More
This is the thing about seeds...
A seed stays dormant until the right conditions are present before it can grow.
I'm no botanist but the environmental cues needed for germination are water, correct temperature, and good location.
At a friend's urging yesterday, I reset my Tinder to expand the age group of men from a minimum age of 37 down to 30. Read More
It took him about 10 minutes to talk me into it cuz I really didn't see the appeal of going so young. I'm 45.
But whatevs so I did. No harm, no foul.
Holy smokes! My account almost blew up.
"Life is hard lately," writes a client. Read More
She's having a difficult time eating nutrient dense foods, not sleeping enough, not exercising, and under constant stress.
But she's having trouble getting pregnant.
Nothing in her life is providing her most basic needs - physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
And if those fundamental needs aren't met, it will be difficult for her to get pregnant.
Your body's primary directive is survival, not reproduction.
You know what's the secret to having more time to do the things that are important to you? Read More
You MAKE the time.
Yes, it seems obvious.
The thing is that for many of us, we spend most of our days serving others.
Most of that time is spent serving the boss and your clients. Then your partner. You usually come in last - and often, only when there's spare time.
I picked up a complete stranger to drive me, my kids, and dog for 4 hours. Read More
I found him on Craigslist. Evidently, rideshares on CL are really popular. His brother has been getting free or really cheap rides using CL for over 10 years. Who knew? It was the first time I had ever done that.
It's an 8.5 hour drive from San Francisco to San Diego. I wanted another driver.
San Francisco is a great city to visit. 47 square miles of ahhh-mazing food! Read More
I was there all weekend with my family.
As is our tradition, we ate. A LOT.
For 3 days straight, it was all about Chinese food.
"How many months will treatment take?" asks a reader. Read More
"Treatment" referring to my online GPS (Get Pregnant & Stay pregnant) Fertility Program.
Great question cuz I get that a lot.
I consider IVF, IUI, and Clomid treatments.
Having trouble getting pregnant due to a physical, structural problem like blocked fallopian tubes, fibroids, severe endometriosis, no viable sperm, etc. requires medical intervention and treatment.
I'm probably still on the road as you read this, making the 8+ hour drive from San Diego to San Francisco to visit my family. So I'm keeping it simple today... Read More
If you need last minute ideas on what to bring for Thanksgiving dinner that's actually good for your fertility, below are some recipes. I included notes on ingredient substitutions that are more fertility friendly. All ingredients should be organic, whenever possible.
Over the past 18 years as a clinician, I've learned that practicing medicine is an art. Read More
Protocols provide a framework to guide me.
In turn, science provides the knowledge to create the protocols.
But the reality is that much of what we think is "science" and therefore fact will change in the future as technology improves. Case in point - Earth is flat, the sun revolves around the Earth.
No one LIKES taking supplements. Read More
You do it cuz you HAVE to.
Maybe it's to achieve a specific health outcome like improving fertility. Or you know that you're not eating enough nutrient-dense whole foods like dark green, leafy veggies so you need a stopgap measure.
But not all vitamins are created equal.
I was asked yesterday how single life 2 years post-divorce was treating me. Read More
Without hesitation, I said it's been way more fun than I could ever expect. There have been and still are tough periods but overall it's a path I don't regret being shoved onto.
I've learned that living well is a skill.
It's not something that just happens. It's a journey.
It needs to be cultivated, nurtured, and prioritized.
"Nancy Kerrigan Realized You Can't 'Train' Your Way to a Pregnancy" Read More
That headline caught my eye as it made its way 'round the fertility forums these past few days.
As a former Olympian in figure skating, she knows a thing or two about training.
So let's get this issue cleared up.
Right the eff now.
Egg Scramble Read More
Eggs are a staple in a fertility diet. They're nutrient-dense, fast, and relatively cheap.
Traditional cultures prized eggs for their fertility boosting nutrients. Eggs develop into an entire animal. Eating them would thus make a woman more fertile.
Just make sure you get them from pasture-raised chickens.
A great question came up about not seeing cervical mucus around ovulation. Read More
Heads up, dudes - this might be TMI for you but suck it up and learn about your woman.
Ok, here goes...
Typically, after your period ends, your hoo-la-la isn't make much cervical mucus (CM). Sometimes you'll feel the dryness during sex and you need lube. Or your man needs to do more foreplay (hint!).
Yesterday's email about persimmons was getting a little long so I'm continuing the discussion on fruits today. Read More
I've read articles over the years about whether buying organic over non-organic foods was worth the extra cost.
Unless the entire organic foods industry is lying to us, I'm going to assume that yes, they are cleaner than their non-organic versions.
I don't care if it's just 1% cleaner because over time that 1% accumulates. And my body (and those of my kids') are temples, not to be defiled by synthetic pest-killing chemicals.