Keeping your eye on the prize...

I recently asked a good friend why she thought I was struggling in the dating department while many of my other single friends were happily hooked up.  

Her reply was something to the effect of..."you COULD be in a relationship but you're choosing to go for the right man.  Since no one has risen to the occasion, you're still looking."

She's right. 

My objective isn't to be with just anyone.  It's to be with that one person who's all that AND a bag of chips.  

Keeping my eye on the prize...

And so should you.

The goal for you isn't to get pregnant as quickly as possible.  Granted, your situation isn't a choice, like mine.  You were unexpectedly dumped into this roller coaster of a fertility journey.

No, the goal for you is to get pregnant, stay pregnant, and have a health baby at the end of 9 months.

That is vastly different from a positive pregnancy test.

Because if you're over 35yo, been diagnosed with poor egg quality, low ovarian reserve, low AMH, high FSH, or have had failed IVF cycles or recurrent miscarriages, it takes time to build a strong enough foundation for a pregnancy to hold.  

Most people underestimate how much time that will actually take.

In fact, I just got off the phone with someone who said her goal is to be pregnant by the end of the year.

The reality is that it's not likely to happen.  Even though 4.5 months seems like plenty of time.

This is a looong game with a bare MINIMUM of 3 months preparation if you started at this very second.  Realistically, most of my clients get pregnant after 9 months.  Depending on their individual situation, it can edge into 1-2 years.  
Which is a very long time to maintain hope when your biological clock is ticking.

So my best advice to stay motivated is to focus on improving yourself so that you have a better chance of getting pregnant.  

To support you better along your fertility journey both physically and spiritually, I'm revamping my GPS (Get Pregnant and Stay pregnant) Fertility Program to be relaunched in September.  You can still get in now before it closes to get started, and have priority access & a significant discount to the new version...  

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

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McDonald's can help your fertility

Did you hear that McDonald's is offering one U.S. fan a lifetime of free McDonald’s? 

The winner gets a 24-karat gold phone case engraved with his/her name.

That treasure gives the owner a lifetime pass to free McDonald’s: 2 meals up to $7 a week for at least 50 years.

I'll take the gold but hold everything else, please!  Ugh, no thanks.

I don't really need to talk about how their food is sooo not helpful for your fertility, do I?

No, I thought not.

So let's touch on how they earned those golden arches to be the king of fast food.

If I ask you what business McDonald's is in, what's your answer?

Most of you would say fast food, restaurant, burger-flippin', or something along those lines.

No, lovelies.  

That's how they may have started but visionary Ray Kroc, the founder, got smart and started buying the land that McD's is on or think would make future, hot locations.

McD's became a real estate holding company.  It buys commercial property for franchisees to rent.  And sells under-performing locations.  And of course, corporate McD's gets a cut of the food business.

Clever, huh?

That required a tremendous amount of foresight and planning.

And so it is with you when it comes to getting pregnant.  

Don't let the superficial aspects such as the mechanics of conceiving (TTCN, IVF, IUI) distract you from building a core foundation of optimal health.  

Peak fertility only comes when the physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental aspects are in alignment.  

Why is that important if you're doing medicated treatments like IVF or IUI?

Glad you asked...

Because you're more than just a uterus and a pair of ovaries.  You're a being who feels, thinks, hopes, and dreams.  Those aspects need to be nurtured just as much as your reproductive organs.  

Focusing solely on the physical body and ignoring the spiritual and psycho-emotional aspects will severely handicap your chances.  

You have to undo the limitations that you've set on yourself. 

Limitations like "I'm too old", "my eggs are no good", "I'm broken".  All that takes a lot of inner work cuz you can only reach the standard as high (or low) as you set it.

To support you better along your fertility journey both physically and spiritually, I'm revamping my GPS (Get Pregnant and Stay pregnant) Fertility Program to be relaunched in September.  You can still get in now before it closes to get started, and have priority access & significant discount to the new version...  

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

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Are you too manly to get pregnant?

As my daughters get older, I've taken particular interest in how our society defines gender roles.  

That, in turn, has influenced how I help women on their fertility journeys.

We live in a masculine world where traits such as power, competition, and productivity are valued.

These characteristics are essential in the workplace for job security and advancement.

However, women have let those ideals into their personal lives where they feel the need to be busy all the time.  

Often, she experiences guilt for slowing down or doing nothing.  

However, it's in the calm quiet that a woman can access the power of her femininity.  Without it, she can't be patient, loving, kind, and nurturing.

All qualities of a mother.  

If you want to be a mother, start by cultivating the traits necessary to become one.  

It's in becoming your full potential will you be able to really have a chance of overcoming seemingly insurmountable issues like poor egg quality, low ovarian reserve, repeated failed IVF cycles, and/or recurrent miscarriage.

Often it's not physical age that's blocking you but rather your inability to tap into the creativity that's inherent in every woman.

One simple (although not always easy) way to regain your power is to leave work where it work.  Don't you think 8+ hours/day is enough to give to someone else?

You must have time to be you.  Wife. Mother (if you're already one).  Daughter. Sister.  Friend.  

To be a multidimensional being.

To help you better along your fertility journey, I'm doing a complete reboot of my GPS (Get Pregnant and Stay pregnant) Fertility Program to be relaunched in September.  If you want to get in to the current program and take advantage of big savings to version 2.0 as an existing client, get in now while you can ...  

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

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Men, I can't keep my hands off your undies!

My tomboy girls sometimes snidely comment "You're dressed up" when they see me wearing a dress.

There's actually a very practical reason when it's hot as Hades out.  I get a lot more air circulation than wearing shorts.  Material for summer dresses tend to be lighter as well which is a bonus.

So shove it, girls!

Keeping cool is important for guys as well.  I actually talked about it last week.

But lo and behold, a study JUST came out to confirm what I was saying.  

Published last Wednesday, researchers found that men who wore boxers had a 25% higher concentration of sperm and 17% higher sperm count than those who favored other underwear styles. 

646 men were asked to choose from the following options: boxers, jockeys, bikini, briefs, and “other.” 

As a chick, I'm wondering...

  • Isn't jockey just a brand?

  • Do American guys REALLY wear briefs? I think that would scar me to see a beach full of briefs.  Thank goodness for board shorts!

As a clinician, I'm putting boxer briefs into the "briefs" category, in case you're wondering. 

They should have added "none aka going commando" as another choice cuz theoretically that's the best option, no?

I would have been happy to give my professional input in this study. ;)

If going shopping, organic cotton or silk are best since they're natural fibers that'll keep him cooler than he already is.

If you found this tip helpful, I have lots more to improve your egg quality as you TTC naturally or prepare for your next IVF.  To learn more about them, check out my Fertility Top10 ...

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

Think different to be different... "The pizza-wheel is actually an infinity knife." - Anonymous, via Reddit :)

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One flew over the vulture's nest

Fascinating (at least to me) random trivia...

Why don't vultures have feathers on their heads and necks?

The predominant theory is that since they feed off dead animals, being bald keeps them relatively clean as they stick their head inside carcasses to scavenge.

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Your "happily ever after" needs this skill

My 9 yo and I are watching "Once Upon a Time" together for our movie nights.  

It's a great TV series where Snow White's evil stepmother curses all the fairy tale characters into the modern world so they can no longer have their happily ever afters.

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Help with a weekend of eating out, drinking, and little sleep!

A client asks..."I wasn't the best with my nutrition, drank alcohol, and slept very little. (Having too much fun at ComicCon!)  Other than righting my path asap, is there anything else I can do to straighten my crooked path?"

Yes, it's nice to indulge and relax the health restrictions once in a while.  But once it's done, it's done.  Best thing to do is move on.

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Can you exercise when TTC?

Another client question, this time about exercise...

"I am so scared to exercise at all, that all I have been doing is gentle walking. Since trying to conceive I have ended up putting on 10 lb since last year, probably because I cut out working out.  Is exercise safe to do while try to conceive and especially during the 2 week wait?"

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Can you get pregnant with a low AMH?

"Can I get pregnant with a low AMH?"

I've addressed this before in my daily emails but it's probably the most common question I get in working with women in their 30s and 40s, so let's have another round at it.

First, what IS AMH?

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Entitled, privileged hens come at a cost

When I had the house with the white picket fence, I thought about raising my own chickens.  How cool to have fresh eggs every day!  Then I realized that I would need 6-8 hens to provide the daily supply necessary for my family.  No thanks.  Dream busted.  Back to the grocery store.

But raising chickens is becoming more popular in large cities.

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