Love can Destroy Your Marriage. Find Out Why and What to Do...

A reader sent me a beautiful note in response to yesterday's email.

"Thanks for sharing the whispers of your heart.. Hallelujah to Love, everything else will follow. "

After thinking about it, I have to disagree.  Love isn't enough.  In fact, if misplaced, love can destroy. 

As Peter Parker's uncle said, "With great power comes great responsibility."  Ok - you're not Spider-Man.  But the sentiment holds.

Love needs to be conscious and expansive.  Otherwise, it can so easily turn selfish and be all about what you want.  When that happens, things go to shyte.

Here's what I mean:  when a woman (it's usually the woman) becomes so in love with the idea of having a child, she can easily neglect her significant other in the pursuit of that dream. 

It becomes about doctor's appointments, timing sex just so, dreading the day when her period comes, the resentment of seeing her friends and family having children, etc. 

I'm not discounting the gravity of your situation or your desires.  It's important to be clear about what you want so you can work towards growing your family. 

But don't do it at the expense of what you already have - the love of your life.

Love is like a delicate flower.  Nourish it with attention and it will flourish.  Or kill it with "take it for granted-ness" (yes, I just made up a word). 

My prescription for growing love is to focus on the love you already have, nurture it, and it will light the darkest corners of your soul as you work towards filling that part yearning for a child.  That work you'll have to do yourself...

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All my best,
Julie Chang

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