"Life is hard lately," writes a client.
She's having a difficult time eating nutrient dense foods, not sleeping enough, not exercising, and under constant stress.
But she's having trouble getting pregnant.
Nothing in her life is providing her most basic needs - physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
And if those fundamental needs aren't met, it will be difficult for her to get pregnant.
Your body's primary directive is survival, not reproduction.
Only if there are plenty of reserves from proper nutrition in a low-stress body will fertility kick in.
Unfortunately, this is something I hear often. Or, at least, variations of this story.
If this sounds familiar to you, you're over 40, AND you're trying to get pregnant, please understand this clearly.
All of those situations are choices that she makes every day - not eating right, poor sleep habits, not exercising, not changing her stressful triggers.
She's choosing a "hard" life.
We get so used to how our life is that we don't realize how much better it can be.
The unknown, even if it's for the better, is often more scary than the comfort of what we know. So we suck it up and just trudge forward.
Nothing about your fertility journey is easy or comforting or peaceful.
But it doesn't mean you're a victim of your circumstances.
Rather, accept the challenges that come with this path you're on as opportunities to grow and create the life you truly want.
Have the courage to make the changes you need to in order for you to get to that optimal fertile state where you can get pregnant.
It might mean reducing your working hours, even getting a new job altogether that's less stressful. You have the rest of your life to work. You have only a few years left to get pregnant.
Learn basic cooking skills so you can make nutritious meals at home - Youtube is your BFF here. It's really not difficult. It just takes practice and burning the first few attempts.
Prune out of your life people who you don't like being around. There are way too many cool people to bother with the numbnutz. Yes, they may be relatives but so what? It's your life. If you keep them around just because of societal rules and norms, that's your choice. Don't whine about it though.
Ah, and your partner. Well, that's a whole other email. Suffice it to say, if you and your partner aren't in a good place, having a baby certainly isn't going to fix that. Rather, that's a sure way to end a marriage. Cuz whatever problems you have now will only be magnified when you're sleep deprived, have someone attached to you 24/7, and have a partner that has a completely different parenting style from you.
Invest the time now to work out your differences. Bar none, that is probably the scariest thing you will ever have to do because it requires completely honesty with yourself and your partner. But for those who put the work into it, it's so worth it (at least, that's what I'm told).
So what choices will you make to grow your chances to conceive?
For me, my choice to continue my growth is to get on Instagram.
Follow me at gpsfertility!
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