Are You Too Fat to Get Pregnant?

Remember the guy I went on a few dates with? 

He wasn't for me.  

That big, neon red flag started flying when he made some comments about how "mushy" Lady Gaga is. 


I saw pictures of her at Super Bowl half time. 

She looked awesome! 

But she had a tiny belly roll.  And that's what he was referring to.

I don't want to be with someone who has this impossible ideal of what a perfect person should look like.  Too much pressure for me. 

I want someone who can appreciate me for the person I am more than the weight I'm going to gain as I get older, the mushy tummy I have from having 2 kids, the sag of my skin as gravity takes hold.

I'm not willing to take a risk on someone who seems that superficial.

In a perfect world, we would look beneath the surface to appreciate what that person has to offer. 

Believe it or not, that perfect world exists.

In us.

Earlier this week, my patient told me how relieved she was to hear from me that I didn't feel her weight would negatively affect her fertility. 

It's my job to be honest about these things.  So I was telling her the truth.

As a woman and a single mom raising 2 young girls, weight is definitely a subject that I'm very sensitive about addressing.

For most of my life, I've been unsatisfied and self-conscious about my body.  Always wanting to lose another 10 pounds.  Thinner, longer legs.  Flatter abs.  More toned arms.  The list goes on.

It hasn't been until the last year that I've truly appreciated my body. 

The turning point for me was when I fully understood how important it is to manage my emotions. 

Because emotions become thoughts - positive or negative.

You can have positive thoughts all you want.  You can tell yourself you're beautiful.  But you're only lying to yourself because you don't believe it deep down.  Those words aren't worth anything until you can change the emotions underlying them.

Guilt, shame, anger, resentment...

For me, the easiest way to remove the negative emotions is to crowd them out with positive vibes.

Doing stuff that makes me happy...

...Being with my friends and family

...Learning new things


...Indoor rock climbing

Working out makes me happy.  Truthfully, not initially.  But sticking with it made the difference.  I can now do physical feats I could never do before.  Headstands, the crow, real pushups.  I'm in the best shape of my life. 

Now, I look at the mirror and smile.

So back to you...

Whatever your weight is, it is only one piece of the fertility puzzle. 

Some of my pregnant patients are overweight, underweight, and everywhere in between.  So, trust me when I say that it's not the end all, be all of getting pregnant.

Instead of obsessing about your weight, do your best to be healthy physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Be the best expression of yourself.

If you can work towards that, things will fall into place. 

Trust me.

If you're having trouble putting the pieces together to improve your fertility, I can help you with that.  Call me at (858) 495-0771 or book here:

Julie Chang,
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

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