We can credit millenials with introducing us to a whole slew of acronyms.
Short, pithy expressions that say so much in just a few letters.
Lol, LMAO, WTF, FUBAR,...
Here's one that's pervasive in our culture of immediate gratification and constant access to other people's private lives via social media.
FOMO - fear of missing out
It's an anxiety that arises when you feel there is a more exciting prospect that is happening elsewhere — and unfortunately, you’re not there.
This fear was actually necessary for us to survive as a species. We needed to be plugged in to our surroundings to perceive danger early or to recognize food sources.
Now, we don't need it as much to alert us to life-or-death situations.
And it has become a source of stress.
It causes us to focus on what others are doing and thus we can't help but compare ourselves to them. Often, we come up short.
So, how do we fix FOMO?
With an attitude of YOLO (you only live once).
The mental exercise of re-framing negative thoughts allows you to replace them with more empowering ones.
For example, next time you're upset about a pregnancy announcement, ask yourself "what can I learn from this". How can you shift yourself from a state of fear and scarcity that it won't happen for you to a place of love and abundance where you are just as entitled to this gift as your friend?
Reframing isn't easy because you have to come toe-to-toe with your insecurities, fears, and limiting beliefs.
But the long-term payoff of not getting so stressed by external factors you can't control anyway is well worth the short-term discomfort.
Forward this lesson of YOLO to a friend dealing with infertility and invite her to opt-in for daily emails at zenfertility.com/top10.
- Licensed Acupuncturist for 18 years
- Master in Traditional Oriental Medicine, Magna Cum Laude
- B.S. Microbiology & Molecular Genetics, UCLA