My mom's legal birthday was yesterday.
Let me clarify...
It's the date listed on her birth certificate. The day her father (my grandfather) registered her at the closest government office.
Her actual date of birth is June 10.
But at that time in rural Taiwan, babies didn't get documented until weeks or months after they were born.
For a number of reasons, according to her...
One, since it was in the countryside, home births were standard since they didn't have easy access to hospitals where birth certificates are processed immediately.
Two, there were so many kids (she was #6 of 9) that it was a matter of having enough time to get around to it. Her family lived on a mountain and it took over 1 hour for my grandfather to ride his bike to get to the appropriate agency.
Now, we get into the darker reasons why it took awhile...
Three, mortality rate was high. Families waited to see if babies would survive long enough to warrant making the long trip. My mom's youngest sister passed away at 3 months but hadn't been registered yet so no official documentation exists for her.
Four, boys were (and still are) valued more in the Chinese culture because of the whole passing down the name thing. So families were more motivated to register the boys faster than the girls.
However much we, as Westerners, abhor the blatant favoring of one child due to something as random as gender (although it's done here as well, just not so widespread and explicit), it's so deeply ingrained in the Chinese culture that we won't see it change any time soon.
Traditions and dogma are part of every culture. They're pretty much etched in stone - very difficult to change however much scientific and spiritual progress we make.
The same is true of science and medicine. There are many things that people hold on to despite being shown otherwise.
Hello, flat earthers.
Greetings, believers of no climate change due to human impact.
And so it is with improving poor egg quality.
Despite clinical diagnoses of poor egg quality/poor ovarian reserve, many women are able to have their own biological children into their 40s.
Yet the prevailing thought in reproductive medicine is that women with these diagnoses are pretty much a lost cause. You've probably had the talk about egg donors or adoption.
Screw what your doctors or mainstream medicine says, do the work necessary to optimize your health - physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
Often fertility will follow, even in your 40s.
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