I'm trying really hard not to be so accommodating and nice all the time.
It's a curse that got worse with motherhood.
Setting boundaries has always been a challenge.
But this weekend I'm driving down from the Bay Area to San Diego which will probably take about 8 hours.
Then I'm doing it again next weekend. That's a 16 hour drive (at minimum) in 3 days.
I told my friend that my 8yo is going to a sleepover camp near San Francisco. I chose that location so we could visit my family in SF before and after the camp. Plane travel was the only mode of transportation involved at that point.
Then my friend says her kids wants to go but she's driving since it would cost too much to fly the 3 of them to and fro. When she asked if I could carpool with her, I agreed.
I completely regret that decision now but it's too late to change my commitment to her. The time spent in the car will be lost to more rejuvenating activities.
I really need to think about what I agree to instead of giving the knee-jerk "yes".
So heed my warning...
Value your time. Spend it in a way that's best for you. Even if it means saying "no" to someone you care about.
Self-care is fundamental to optimal health and thus your fertility.
Overgiving is exhausting and often, unnecessary. It's the momentary guilt of not giving in that we try to avoid by agreeing to things which aren't in our best interests.
We need to just get over it. And realize that we are the only ones who can take care of ourselves 100% of the time.
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