I live in a townhouse complex, affectionately dubbed "divorce alley".
Us divorcees flock here so our kids can stay within walking and biking distance to their schools and friends after selling our houses post-divorce.
Yes, it would have been much smarter financially to move to a less expensive neighborhood as I reboot my life as a single mom. But it's a sacrifice I'm making because my kids' happiness is more important than the tighter pinch on the wallet. They have their friends and routine here. If at all possible, I want to minimize their disruptions.
So, for them and for my future, I work smarter than I've ever before. I'm way more efficient and productive to make my time count.
In order to maintain this pace, I go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 6am, weekends included. I've kicked the snooze button habit, stopped watching tv on the weekdays, work out several times a week, eat less junk (work in progress), and basically done everything I know I needed to do anyways but was too lazy to until I got kicked in the teeth via the whole divorce apocalypse.
Unless you want a mouthful of dentures, you gotta do the same on your fertility journey. Daily, consistent effort - rain or shine (figuratively and literally).
Get up even when you wanna stay in bed and do what know you need to.
Motivation doesn't magically appear. You're not going to just FEEL like working out, eating better, stop feeling crushing disappointment when Aunt Flo comes. It takes work and it requires daily, consistent action. As you take control of your choices and it becomes easier, that's when the motivation comes. AFTER you get started and see the small successes. NOT before.
What you think is motivation in the beginning is hope. Hope that you can change your situation. When it doesn't happen soon enough to your liking, that hope fades to disappointment. Then you falter cuz nothing's working. Eventually, even that faltering disappears and you STOP.
But motivation to achieve a goal requires motion. Continual, small movements forward. Keep moving. Focus on the next step and then the next and so on. Stop overthinking it and just do.
So that's my tiger mom rap for the day.
When I re-open the doors to my online fertility coaching program in November, it'll be easier to know which choices to make. Mainly cuz I tell you what they are. Until then, you got this.
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