Working with fertility patients, I often see the struggle that's underneath the public facade.
My heart broke as this beautiful, intelligent young woman talked about her struggle to continue to want to live for the past 2 years. This weekend, she wanted to end her life.
I hear the same feelings of self-blame, shame, despair, and loneliness that's often an undercurrent to varying degrees in many women taking longer than expected to get pregnant.
People walk around with masks, pretending that everything is fine - even to their closest confidants. It takes courage to remove that mask and admit to what you're feeling. It's hard. But it's the quickest way to process through the emotions.
We are social creatures. As women, we crave emotional connection. We need to lean on each other in times of need. That's how we survive the inevitable obstacles life throws at us.
The unexpected benefit of being so vulnerable with someone else is that you've now opened a communication line so that when they need you, you can be their support. And more often than not, they have their own struggles that they're hiding as well. Someone just had to make the first move.
If you're having a difficult time, reach out to a loved one.
I can provide additional support with actionable fertility tips when I relaunch my online fertility coaching program in November. In the meantime, stay in the light.
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The Real Deal:
- Natural Fertility Coach
- Licensed Fertility Acupuncturist for 18 years
- Master in Traditional Oriental Medicine, Magna Cum Laude
- B.S. Microbiology & Molecular Genetics, UCLA