I remember when I was married thinking how lucky I was that I wasn't in the dating scene.
Ugh. Well, you know how that goes. I spoke too soon and am eating my thoughts.
Now that I've just started my 3rd year of dating post-divorce, it has gotten easier. I've learned a lot about myself and men. Although they will forever elude my complete comprehension, I have a better understanding of them.
One thing I've noticed as a difference between men and women is that women are much more emotionally resilient.
Women tend not to let past failed relationships stop them from seeking new ones.
On the other hand, men, in general, have difficulty letting the past go and opening their hearts again. I've met a number of men who have had only 1 or 2 significant relationships in their lives even though they're in their late 30s or older and never been married. That's when I run! :)
Is it part of our biology that we're so emotionally resilient? I don't know.
But I do know that you need to tap into that resilience when you're trying to get pregnant. Especially when you're in your 40s, been diagnosed with poor egg quality/low ovarian reserve, had failed IVF or IUI cycles, or recurrent miscarriages.
Yes, it's difficult. There are times you just want to hunker down in the corner and bawl. And that's fine. You just can't stay there cuz the spiders are gonna spin cobwebs around you. Rather, after your crying jag, clean that corner of dust bunnies cuz it will make you feel better that you accomplished something.
Joking aside. It's a matter of getting right back up, pulling up your granny panties or thongs (no judgment here), and doing something small every day to move yourself forward.
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