You gotta laugh...or cry...but the irony is still there

It’s ironic, isn’t it?

We spend most of our lives trying NOT to get pregnant.  And here you are now, turning over every stone to figure out how to GET pregnant.  

You know way more about your menstrual cycle, fertility, doctor’s offices, and insurance reimbursements than you ever wanted to.

If you’re here with me, I know you’ve been trying to get pregnant for quite some time now - probably years.  And with each year, more money has gone down the drain with unsuccessful inseminations or IVFs.

You’re probably in your late 30s or older.  You’ve been told by your doctors that it’s too late to use your own eggs and you need donor eggs.  

But something inside you doesn’t want to give up… 

There’s a teeny tiny spark of hope that maybe, just maybe it’s possible.  You’ve asked the universe for help. Well, here I am. :)

I've helped women get pregnant since 1999.  Many of them in their 40s.

In fact, the oldest client I’ve helped was 46yo when she got pregnant naturally! It took about 2 years because she was dealing with breast cancer as well.  But she stuck to my program with great success.

So, here’s the thing you must understand when you’re trying to get pregnant in your late 30s and 40s.

It’s not just about GETTING pregnant.  It’s also about STAYING pregnant.

They sound like they should be the same.  But they’re completely different.

Consider that getting pregnant requires only 2 main events: 1) an egg is fertilized by a sperm and 2) said fertilized egg implants in your uterine lining.  That happens over a matter of days.

Staying pregnant is a 9 month process where a fertilized egg has to grow into a HEALTHY human being with fully functioning organs. 

How many events need to happen?  Millions?  Trillions?  Probably more.  Can you see how much more complex that is?  That process requires a whole lot of parts.

As you age, your body wears down.  

Just like your car…  Your car’s manufacturer has a maintenance schedule for oil changes and replacements of parts like brakes, filters, tubing, and whatever (I’m so not a mechanic!).  If you ignore it, your car won’t last as long as it can. A Lamborghini and a Kia - no offense, Kia owners :) - will have similar requirements because it’s about minimizing wear and tear to optimize performance.

It’s the same with your body.  

Your oil change and parts replacements come in the form of supplements, nutrition, exercise, sleep, and other lifestyle changes.  

If you ignore the essential basics that provide the "parts" or building blocks of a baby, you’re not going to get past “Go”.  

It doesn’t matter how many IVFs you do because an IVF cycle doesn’t guarantee that you’ll stay pregnant if it works.

In fact, let’s look at the 2012 Centers for Disease Control (CDC) data of miscarriage rates for women undergoing IVF.  These statistics only include losses after ultrasound confirmed pregnancy, usually around 7-8 weeks. Miscarriage rates would be significantly higher if early miscarriages before ultrasound (called "chemical pregnancies") were also included.

The miscarriage rate after ultrasound confirmation of pregnancy was approximately:

 

  • Under 15% at age 35 and under
  • 29% at age 40
  • 60% at age 44
  • And higher after age 44

As you can see, it’s important to keep in mind that it’s not just about getting pregnant, it’s also about staying pregnant.  

Let’s leave the car analogy since I don’t understand how cars work :) and use a campfire comparison.

Getting pregnant i.e. fertilizing the egg is like lighting a match and setting a stack of wood on fire.  Relatively easy.

But to keep a fire going (oh, let’s say for 9 months) requires more than just a stack of wood that you start with..  You need to constantly forage and store more. Without preparation, the fire goes out before you’re able to throw some more wood on it.  It’s all in the preparation.

With me?

So you’re probably wondering why it’s so much easier for other women?

The answer is quite simply...age.

The older you get, the more preparation you need because your eggs are also older.  They need more TLC to rejuvenate them and get them ready for pregnancy.

Over the next 10 days, I’ll share with you my Top 10 Fertility Do’s and Don’ts as you’re trying to get pregnant.  

Why not put them into a list?  Yes, I can. But I have a lot of ground to cover and bullet points just don’t do them justice.

It also takes time to process the information and for you to decide how you want to implement each tip.

For today, the most important thing for you to understand is that to stay pregnant with a healthy baby requires preparation.  You must switch your mindset from getting pregnant NOW to preparing for a healthy baby in the future which takes time and patience.

Let’s meet up again tomorrow.  Same Bat-time, same Bat-channel!

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

The Real Deal:

  • Natural Fertility Coach
  • Licensed Fertility Acupuncturist for 19 years
  • Master in Traditional Oriental Medicine, Magna Cum Laude
  • B.S. Microbiology & Molecular Genetics, UCLA

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