Women are emotional creatures. Duh.
Your feelings-based nature is one of your greatest strengths because it's your source of empathy for others.
On the flip side, it can be your Achilles' heel when dealing with highly volatile personal matters.
Like trying to get pregnant.
The monthly emotional roller coaster you experience when your period comes often leads to feeling defeat, that nothing will work. Bringing you to the brink of giving up.
So how do you overcome the hopelessness? It's not simple or easy. It requires a lot of work and strength on your part.
But the key is to setting realistic expectations so you can reduce the extreme emotions from the journey.
Remember when you first learned something new?
Maybe a new job, an instrument, sport, or language.
A lot of mistakes were made. But you knew that would be part of the process so it didn't stop you from persevering until you reached your desired level of proficiency.
To master any new skill takes time, patience, and diligence.
You might have gotten frustrated by the slow progress, the plateaus, and the obstacles. But they were expected.
Your expectations and the reality of where you were at any given stage were closely matched so you didn't feel a huge let down when you couldn't play Beethoven's Fifth, get the ball where you wanted, or converse with a native speaker fluently within a few months.
Adopt the same approach when you're trying to get pregnant in your late 30s or 40s.
Learning how to improve your health enough to get and stay pregnant is a skill set, believe it or not.
Much of what you've learned through the media and most of your doctors about healthy habits have to be corrected.
What you don't know to improve your fertility naturally at this time needs to be learned.
This takes time and patience.
It won't happen in a month or 2 or 3. It will take at least several months of active learning and implementation before enough positive change has occurred for pregnancy.
So in summary, fertility tip #5 is to have realistic expectations of where you are now and how to get where you want to be.
If you don't, you will likely give up too soon and miss your window of opportunity, not knowing that success could be right around the corner.
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." - Thomas Edison, inventor with 2,332 patents
Another fertility tip tomorrow so come back then. Same Bat-time, same Bat-channel!
If you missed fertility tip #4, you can get it here.
All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt
P.S. To know what REALLY improves fertility and get you closer to success, check out my Fertility Top10: http://zenfertility.com/top10