In response to someone posting on social media about their fertility issues, I see a lot of replies in the form of "If God wills it, then I'll have a baby." or something to that effect.
In secular terms, I interpret that to mean "If it's meant to be, it'll happen."
That way of thinking is too simplistic in my experience working with fertility patients for almost 20 years. And incredibly disempowering to leave your reproductive future to chance.
I can't think of any other health issue that someone would just throw their hands up and say "I hand over my fate to the universe." No, they would do their due diligence and take their future in their own hands. Why would trying to get pregnant be any different?
Consider this instead...
"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity" - Seneca, Roman philosopher
That means luck can be generated so that it isn't just about divine intervention gifting you with a baby.
To make your own luck on your fertility journey, you need to do these things...
- listen to your intuition to make decisions that align with your values - often, women don't listen to their inner truth and give up way too easily and early cuz of what they read or hear from their doctors about being too old to have their own kids
- create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations - I know you've been told countless times that you're too old to have your own baby or your eggs aren't good enough. But if you lead with that expectation, that is the path you will stay on. Instead, radically shift your thoughts to those of possibility and how incredible your body is, regardless of age.
- adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good - yes, it's devastating to see your period come month after month. Resiliency comes in the form of seeing that although you didn't get the result you wanted this cycle, at least you're getting a period which means you're still in it.
- develop the skill to recognize opportunities - I can't believe the obstacles women put up in making simple lifestyle changes that improve fertility yet are willing to put tens of thousands dollars into one chance of getting pregnant with IVF. "I'm too busy", "I don't like taking supplements.", "I'm too tired.", ... If you know your priorities, the decisions become very clear and you recognize these statements for what they are...excuses.
One of these opportunities is my Fertility Top10 where I teach you how to improve your fertility naturally - http://zenfertility.com/top10
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