"How can I get pregnant?"
I get asked that a lot on social media. No additional supporting information.
You know that saying about how there are no bad questions? Yeah, there are. And this would be one of them.
My assumption is that they're looking for that ONE thing - that one food, one supplement, or one technique which will get them pregnant despite years of trying unsuccessfully.
The magic pill.
I will tell you right now that there isn't one magical pill. At least in the way you imagine it.
But there is ONE attitude you can have while traveling this very rough fertility road.
It's a lesson that I continue to practice myself. An approach that I try to teach my kids.
I apply it EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Even on weekends.
Even on holidays.
It's an attitude that makes any obstacle surmountable or, at least, emotionally manageable.
Because not practicing this makes life really, really hard. And frankly, quite depressing.
It's said quite succinctly by my business mentor, Ben Settle...
"Instead of making goals around specific outcomes, make goals around the things you can control."
In your case, the positive pregnancy test is that specific outcome that you can't control.
But you can influence that result and tip the scale in your favor by making goals around the things you CAN control. Things like...
- eating nutrient-dense foods that feed your body, not drain it due to inflammation
- getting enough sleep so your body can repair itself
- disconnecting from external noise like social media that feeds your insecurities
- going outdoors everyday to get healing sunshine
- exercising in the right way to stimulate mitochondria, the power plants of your eggs and sperm
Do you see how much more empowering it is to focus on these actions instead of waiting anxiously every month for your period?
Create a system to make sure that you do these things.
What do I do?
Since my big project is to help as women 35yo and older have a healthy baby, I have certain things I need to focus on every day.
I have a bunch of sticky flags on my laptop monitor. At the beginning of the day, they're on the right side of the screen. Tasks I'm currently working on get moved to the top edge. When done, the flags are moved to the left. Simple, effective, and holds me accountable for making sure I do what's important to keep me moving forward everyday.
Improving your fertility enough to get pregnant after years of trying is a project with lots of moving pieces.
Consider yourself a project - a work in progress.
Treat it with the organization, dedication, and excitement it deserves. The rewards are life changing. I promise.
If you want the specific steps on what to do, it's all in my Fertility Top10 http://zenfertility.com/top10
All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt