Keeping your eye on the prize...

I recently asked a good friend why she thought I was struggling in the dating department while many of my other single friends were happily hooked up.  

Her reply was something to the effect of..."you COULD be in a relationship but you're choosing to go for the right man.  Since no one has risen to the occasion, you're still looking."

She's right. 

My objective isn't to be with just anyone.  It's to be with that one person who's all that AND a bag of chips.  

Keeping my eye on the prize...

And so should you.

The goal for you isn't to get pregnant as quickly as possible.  Granted, your situation isn't a choice, like mine.  You were unexpectedly dumped into this roller coaster of a fertility journey.

No, the goal for you is to get pregnant, stay pregnant, and have a health baby at the end of 9 months.

That is vastly different from a positive pregnancy test.

Because if you're over 35yo, been diagnosed with poor egg quality, low ovarian reserve, low AMH, high FSH, or have had failed IVF cycles or recurrent miscarriages, it takes time to build a strong enough foundation for a pregnancy to hold.  

Most people underestimate how much time that will actually take.

In fact, I just got off the phone with someone who said her goal is to be pregnant by the end of the year.

The reality is that it's not likely to happen.  Even though 4.5 months seems like plenty of time.

This is a looong game with a bare MINIMUM of 3 months preparation if you started at this very second.  Realistically, most of my clients get pregnant after 9 months.  Depending on their individual situation, it can edge into 1-2 years.  
 
Which is a very long time to maintain hope when your biological clock is ticking.

So my best advice to stay motivated is to focus on improving yourself so that you have a better chance of getting pregnant.  

To support you better along your fertility journey both physically and spiritually, I'm revamping my GPS (Get Pregnant and Stay pregnant) Fertility Program to be relaunched in September.  You can still get in now before it closes to get started, and have priority access & a significant discount to the new version... zenfertility.com/gps.  

All my best,
Julie Chang, L.Ac
Natural Fertility Eggspurt

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